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Why Being a Good Girl is a Bullshit Narrative
March on. Do not tarry. To go forward is to move toward perfection. March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life’s path.- Khalil Gibran
It’s amazing how many people try to sell women the good girl narrative. Do you remember being told what behaviors would get you a pat on the head and which ones would get you yelled at? Internalizing this messaging often leads us down a road that is unfulfilling. When we finally pick our heads up, look around, and see beyond the fogginess, we discover the BS lie we’re being sold.
Two of the biggest drawbacks of a good girl mindset are extreme comparison and perfectionism. Let’s break down the difference between the unhealthy and healthy versions of each:
Perfectionism when it is pursued for the sake of excellence is a different story and often motivates people to achieve their goals. Perfectionism’s darker side is based on setting unrealistically high expectations for yourself, which can lead to mental health problems. In the same way, perfectionism that leads to not accepting our mistakes and understanding that faltering is a part of the process is harmful
If you use comparison to gain inspiration to achieve something you admire about someone else’s life, you can use it for good. Comparison comes with harmful consequences when we put…
